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2001-07-17 | 5:30 p.m.

some people want to have their cake and eat it, too, but corduroy licorice was happy just to have his. he could sit and stare at the frosting flowers for hours without even a passing thought of taking a bite.

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some people work as psychoanalysts, but have you ever heard of anyone getting a gig as an overanalyst? is there any work in that field? because if so, i must be one of the most qualified laywomen on earth.

i guess it's usually a feminine trait, this turning some event or comment over and over and over in one's brain. looking at every nook and cranny for possible slights, betrayals, bad juju or plain old stupidity on the other party's part.

"why did he say that?" "what did he mean by that?" "why did he do that?" "is this the beginning of a sliding decline into a black forest of deception?"

back when i was in counseling, one of the most valuable things i learned from my emotional safari guide was how to look at things from a new perspective. if a person made a gesture towards me that i took offense to, what was another way to look at the situation? could it be that the gesture was meant for someone else? maybe the person was just stretching? hmmm...maybe...but i prefer my interpretation...the one that makes me the eversuffering victim. heheh.

perhaps i didn't watch enough TV soap operas as a child...or perhaps i watched too many.

but i do overanalyze.

online dating boy semi-flaked on a semi-plan we had made. i spent a significant amount of my sunday night figuring out what that occurence meant. he was losing interest...he is honesty challenged...he is irresponsible? all stuff that put him in the doghouse and me in the dumps. silly, silly me.

after some rehashing with a few girlfriends, one who kindly bestowed me with a comforting "sometimes it's tough to be a girl" hug, i got a reality check and calmed the heck down.

fortunately, online dating boy is blissfully ignorant of my mental meanderings. i have spared him thus far. will he be so lucky in the future?

only his hairdresser knows for sure.

peace out for now, mini-muffins! may all your toppings be crumbly and sweet!

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