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2000-10-10 | 04:19:10

i like me some freaks.

i figured that out. and how.

boys with personalities too big for the room.

counter-culture rebels with a bad attitude and a good sense of humor.

hubba, hubba.

so my improv crush boy fits the description. during our class song warm-ups, he belts backstreet boys and n'sync songs with eerie accuracy. i find this charming. very charming. i dig n'sync's "bye, bye, bye" somethun' fierce, i tell you what. when he kicks into their exact cadence and puts his whole diaphram into it, i'm swept away. earnest about his boy bands, that boy is.

so this improv fellar has a personality that's too big for the room. plus, he's several years younger than me. plus, he wants to be an improv actor. after desert storm i revoked my actor/musician dating license. just when i think i'm out...they keep dragging me back in.

at this point i'm thinking, why fight it? i worship the cult of personality. why not accept my fate? i'll never like a normal boy.

now if i could just find a freak who would treat me sweetly. then i'd be in freakshow heaven, 'cause i'm kinda odd meself, dontcha know?

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yesterday i asked for some feedback on if girls should ask boys out, and did i get an in-box-full! check it out, mateys...arrrrrr!

the ever-thoughtful daysleeper says:

"My advice for your recent query would be to ask him out. I have no problem with women asking me and I would almost have to say that one of my most successful relationships was with a girl who asked me out in college. She was in a hurry and asked if I could go to a play with her. She mumbled something about her date canceling on her, but I have a feeling that she never had anyone else in mind to go with her. Of course I could be wrong since I never asked because it would have spoiled the moment. I also feel the women asking would eliminate an enormous amount of confusion and wasted time."

the ever-lovable sweet cecily says:

"For god sakes, go for it! If you don't you'll be sorry! I promise! I know I can think of ten million times when I've regretted not talking to a boy. Of course I can also think of ten million times when I wish I hadn't (ex. - gorgeous boys often have lil teeny tiny IQs.)"

the ever-rockin' baggage says:

"...all girls should stay away from the kind of guy whose ego is so fragile and easily threatened that he can't even see the obvious compliment in having a girl ask him out. Girls should ask guys out as much as they want. If the guy doesn't like it, fuck him-or rather-don't."

the ever-intriguing jeremy says:

"as far as i'm concerned, the whole notion of leaving the chase up to us boys is as outdated as rumble seats on Model Ts. honestly, with Viagra commercials on TV and radio, women's sex drives being discussed openly, Sex in the City, women's lib (even Gloria Steinhem got married), i think it's safe to say that it's more than OK for that pretty gal to ask out the handsome stud. on top of all that, hasn't there been that person that we're still kicking ourselves over for not asking them out, regardless of whether we are male or female? where you both knew there was a chance for something there, but you both chickened out?"

the ever-delightful malice says:

"oh geez, what a timely poll question you have asked. i have no idea about this, and i really need to know, because i am madly, deeply, passionately, with all my being in love with a rockabilly dreamlover demigod i've never actually spoken to and i am fully prepared to ask him out, i think that any guy who gets eeked out by girls taking the bull by the horns is no kinda guy for me, but what i need to know is what in god's name do i say when i ask him out? 'hi! you don't know me, but i've been coming to this overprices gourmet food store where i can barely afford to buy bread for months in the hopes of seeing you. are these melons ripe?' he works in the produce section. there are SO many double entendre pick-up-line possibilities. i guess my question is do you think the average rockabilly demigod dreamlover would be more receptive to devastating wit or shear honesty? 'hi. i can't afford to shop here so can i just have your phone number?'"

the ever-philosophical tragedy anne says:

"I've always grown up with the idea that guys should always ask girls out. It's a conservative fact, i know. I've always wanted to ask guys out, but either i have #1: the fear of being turned down, or #2: the shyness to ask, or even #3: the embarrassment of asking out the wrong guy. Usually in my case #2 is the problem. At one point #1 came up because of previous guy dilemmas. Also at one point #3 came up because the guy that i liked had a status of being a bad-ass and is in no favourable condition. I said oh well and continued living. I never actually asked out a guy out. One time my friends asked my crush out for me, and he said, 'Yeah, prob'ly.' What kind of an answer is that?? He never asked me out despite of that, so i didn't ask him out either."

the ever-optimistic ms. dezine says:

"I think it's ok for a girl to ask a guy out these days, although I wouldn't make a habit of it, based on my experiences. I think guys are always flattered when a girl asks them out and it sorta surprises them in a good way. You know, kinda like, "Hey, this girl's got guts. That's way cool." On the other hand, if you find yourself always the one asking the same guy out, then it gives the guy less motivation to ask you out. You are no longer a good chase nor a challenge. Do you know what I mean? The guys I've talked to have told me that they like it when the girl is a challenge and based on my experiences.....the guys who I've given a hard time with are the ones who continually call or ask me out AND they are the ones who tend to treat me with alot more respect. So, give him a call and go from there. If he's had a good time and really interested, well, then, HE should be the one to ask you out on a second date."

the ever-dreamy scubagal says:

"Being the ahem ...progressive, assertive, new millenium woman I am, I should say go for it. You know, guys always say they would love for a girl to take the initiative. And if this guy is showing signs of interest, he'll definitely be flattered! Of course, I've never personally, straight out asked a guy out ... wait, actually I have and it didn't work out! So, never again for me. But I think you should and good luck with it. Make it casual - you know, it doesn't have to be a date, date, just go for coffee or to check out an exhibition thing you're both interested in. That way there's no pressure to be all date-like."

the ever-so-sweet rhetoric says:

"since you've perceived signals indicating his potential interest, i say do what you want to do. personally i find it rather flattering/interesting/intriguing for a young lady to inquire of my evening/weekend plans. while i must admit that if a complete stranger were to approach me similarly, i'd be taken aback, nevertheless, i'd be flattered. then again, i don't think myself to be much of a normal lad, so you might do better to ignore me."

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and now that we have the "how to," let's go check out the "who to" as the ethan hawke-lookalike jeremy has to say about his future uma thurman...

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